Why people do what they do. An introduction by Cecil Barnes.

THE BIRTH OF A NOTION

When a friend of mine made the suggestion that I start a blog, I was kind of lukewarm to the idea.  I wasn’t sure what to write about, but when I got the ok to write about anything (no limits), it became a lot more interesting.

I have been a counselor for 30 years and while most of that was spent in an educational setting, I have developed a pretty good skill of reading people and figuring out pretty quickly where they are coming from psychologically.

What is going to make this different is that it is not going to be some stuffy scientific assessment of what makes people tick, but it is going to be based on my experiences and observations of friends, relatives, and acquaintances, I have had over that time.  It is all based on real situations that I have experienced or watched someone else experience.

You will probably disagree with some of my ideas, and that’s ok.  You may get angry at some of my ideas and that’s ok too.  If some of the things I say cause you to pause and look at how you would or have addressed similar situations, and think maybe you should have done something different then that’s what I’m aiming for with this blog.

I am going to cover relationships of all kinds, hidden agendas, what people say and what they mean, obsessive-compulsive behavior and any other topic that comes along.  If you as the reader think of anything you would like to have me address, please let me know.

I’m not going to name names or specify locations.  Not everything I say applies to everyone, so if you think I’m talking about you, maybe I am and maybe …………………………….I’m not.   That is the beauty of introspection.  If you see yourself in what I say then it becomes more personal than if I make an accusation and all of our defense mechanisms go into effect.  Only you know the truth, and when you turn out the lights at night, only you really know what your agendas are.

 
While this is something I hope will be interesting, sometimes humorous, and give me a chance to say some things I have needed to say, it also forces me to relive some experiences that are very emotionally painful and take a second look at people and things that I might rather not revisit.  So, it’s a gamble on my part to at least put some of the situations behind me.

I do need to let you know that sometimes I use my own lingo to describe certain situations and again remember this is MY assessment of the experiences or behaviors I have been through and observed in my life.

So with that all being said, I can start the journey and remember throughout that with a huge majority of people what we see on the surface is never the total person and in the end we are all judged by our deeds, not our words or intentions.